The Sensory Spectrum

For SPD Kiddos and Their Parents

Don’t Look Them in the Eye if You Want Them to Listen


The one thing that drives me absolutely BONKERS is when my kids don’t listen to me. For my 5yo, listening is a particular problem. He’s often overwhelmed with sensory input or experiences “tunnel vision” and can’t tune in to what is going on around him. So how do I get him to listen when I’m talking about something extremely important?

I’ve first learned to never ask him to look at me while I’m talking. In fact, I often start by saying “You don’t have to look at me, but I need you to listen.” Or I sit side by side with him so he can look out and not feel the pressure of a reaction. And to be honest, some of our best conversations have been in the car, when there’s isn’t a remote chance that I may actually make eye contact with him.

Author: Jennifer

Jennifer is a mom evolving as she navigates the waters of parenthood as well as having two children with sensory processing disorder and sharing her knowledge. She writes The Jenny Evolution, Generation iKid and The Sensory Spectrum.

2 thoughts on “Don’t Look Them in the Eye if You Want Them to Listen

  1. never thought of it like that,gotta try it!

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